Should I leave? My family members and boyfriend is living in Malaysia, where I'm currently living in. I'm turning 18 this coming October and I need advice whether i should go. Obviously, when I ask the people around me they couldn't give me an answer which basically means don't go, especially my boyfriend. The main reason leaving to New Zealand is to further my studies in a better environment. Other than that, I would love to lead a better life there. Friends that I've made in this place aren't as nice as I've expected them to be. Majority of them can't be trusted AT ALL in times of trouble. They tend to gossip around bout people's live. But whatever, they're out of my life. There's disadvantage living in New Zealand too. If i were to go there, I'll be living with my aunty who is a permanent resident there. She's very strict, she told me that i would have to follow her rules and regulations, I'm pretty scared I'm not used to it. I'm not a bookworm or what so ever. I might lose my freedom and can't go out like i use to. I might not be able to take it, unfortunately i can't turn back if i have made the decision to study and live there and it's too late for regrets by then. I have to my my decision very soon. I need advice. Thanks, xx
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I'd say go to New Zealand. Try it out for a year. When you get there, be patient, get a job, save some money and get your own place.
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just go...for ur future u need to build ur own life
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Malaysia
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Try not to worry too much about your boyfriend at your age a good education is far more important (if he really sayang you maybe he could follow you there next time) As for your aunty, well, if you will be staying under her roof then you have to follow her rules out of respect, but if you find you really cannot tahan it then you can always find a part-time job and look for your own flat/room to rent.
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no one can give you the answer you want. just don't make decisions when you're not calm. live in the country where you think you will be happy.
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for the best future go must go because to enjoy you can enjoy any time even if you already old but to have an opportunity to be somebody with qualification is not every time. take your luck if your boy friend is really love you he will wait for you believed this because if some one really love you, you will always inside their heart. take the opportunity and good luck
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opportunity only knocks once...boys comes and goes ! if i were you i would go..NZ is a wonderful place, people are more nicer and less racist ..as for your aunt, follow Bean's advice.. even if you're in Malaysia you will still have to live under your parents rules, its the same ..treat your aunt as a parent..if you really cant take it, then get a place of your own slowly..safe money... its not that bad..i have relatives in NZ and they said its 100 times better than here .. people are loving and caring there, they don't see colour... please go if not u would regret 1 day.. but keep in touch with your bf if u must, so that he wont feel as if he's left out.. good luck
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As long as for the shake for the education (Further Study) I strongly agree with u to make a firm decision that mean u have to leave him behind. After completing yr study came back and get married. I think u must be SAYANG yr BF most. Isn't it?
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New Zealand, period. the only things that seems to stop you from pursuing your studies there is your aunty. but then like Bean said, you can always find your own place and work part time to pay the rent. If you pass up this opportunity now, you'll be faced with limitations in your future. Try your best to go.
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Go Go Go ! while you are young and have he chance. At 18, think of your education. Boyfriends will take care of themselves,
11 :
study in NZ !
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